Girl, Stop Apologizing
|This is going to be a long one.. #thatswhatshesaid because I am still so mixed on my feelings for this book. It’s like listening to a cheesy 90’s pop song or watching a Lifetime movie for ovaries, it’s so bad it’s good. I loved Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies about Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be so I wanted this book really badly. So I went and bought the advanced hard copy at Barnes and Noble. Then bought the audio book on Audible. And then I listened to it.
I think I’ve grasped the overall gist of the book and the thing is I am still torn between loving it or hating it….because just liking it doesn’t cut it. So I am going to break it down between the pros and cons.
Here are some key takeaways, parts I really resonate with, and quotes that I loved!
▪Childhood tendencies for attention are hard to break.
▪”How can anyone follow their what if, if they need someone else to approve of it first?”
▪”You don’t know me, you only know your perception of me.”
▪ I cared more about being loved by others than I cared about loving myself.
▪ Brene Brown: “Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior… Guilt: I’m sorry, I made a mistake. Shame: I’m sorry, I am the mistake.
▪ So many years I wasted knotted up about people’s expectations for my life.
▪ Goal diggers!
▪ The entire part about moving on from childhood and adolescent trauma and not using as an excuse. High school is over. So needed this part.
▪ “When you’re in the early stages of a goal you’re the most insecure, which means you’re easily swayed by what other people might think or believe”.
▪ Figment of your imagination negativity, when nobody has done anything. You’re letting their opinion control your life.
▪ A clear way of moving the goal post.
▪ Utilizing time, stop scrolling!
▪ Wait….I’m supposed to have a nutritionist too?
▪ Every single brag. And there was a lot. New York Times best seller, boob job, full time nannies, full time housekeeper,stylists, beauticians, first class. Etc. It was NOT relatable at all. I get that at some point she was trying to say “ask for help” but, that is not how the vast majority of the population gets help.
▪ A bit more fat and body shaming that seemed to counteract her statements of “love yourself”.
▪ I’m not sure if this book is being marketed as a Christian book like Girl Wash Your Face, but if it is…no. Just don’t. It touches on that like maybe once and even though I am not religious in any way, if I read this thinking it was a Christian book, I’d be pissed. Marketing to a less over saturated market than self help is not cool.
▪ Call me sister or sis one more time….
So here we are. At the crossroads. I am leaving my rating at a 3.75ish or so because I am still torn on my feelings. After reading the book the first time, I researched Rachel a bit more. Word is she plagiarized a lot of this book, and that notion rubbed me the wrong way. Is it true? I don’t know. However, I did feel this book was a bit more rushed and some parts were totally out of place. I read it twice because I started getting tired of the bragginess towards the end and wanted to give it a another shot. Same feelings though. Constantly talking about making the New York Times bestseller list or how this book was on deadline increased the word count, but the content on it was lost to me.
Give it a try. I still liked the vast majority of it, but am now looking for others who may have “inspired” this work.