Why Her?: 6 Truths We Need to Hear When Measuring Up Leaves Us Falling Behind
|Before I begin, I want to make a full disclosure statement of sorts. I am not religious. Yes, I was raised Catholic, but aside from the rare event that takes place in a church (Baptism’s, weddings, etc), I don’t practice any sort of religion. Therefore, my review is going to be a bit different, because if I am being honest, this book was probably not meant for someone like me.
However, I struggle with “why her” syndrome, and have been trying to overcome it for decades. Yes decades. Similar to the Kardashian type tale of Rachel and Leah, I too had sister rivalry. And not with one sister, two. As the oldest of three girls, the youngest only 3 years younger then me, growing up was often a why her life.
Why does she get an extra cookie?
A Few Years Later…
Why does she have more friends?
Thus began my life of why her. It didn’t just end with my sisters. In middle school I was bullied pretty badly. I often asked myself, why me? Why does she not have to hide from the torment of bullies? Why do the boys like her more? In high school I thought it had come to an end….
Until I saw my sister talking to a long time crush at my graduation. Why her?
Even More Years later…
Why did he leave me for her? Why did she get picked for honors? Why did she get the job and not me?
To Full Circle Now…
So as you can see, I needed this book. Religion aside, I actually quite enjoyed the story of Leah and Rachel….it seriously is made for reality TV. Why her is something we all face. Like it or not, admit it or not…it’s always in the back of our minds niggling away at our self esteem.
I especially liked the parts about social media and comparison, because wow, if there is ever a place for “why her” thoughts to begin….it’s done while scrolling Instagram or Facebook. What I loved about this book is that I could relate to pretty much everything and it made me feel less insecure in my own issues. I do have a comparison why her problem…and trust me, it’s NOT easy to overcome. I searched high a low and literally typed in Books about women and jealousy into Google.