It's not fair. Those three little words can sound like nails on a chalkboard to a teacher, parent, anyone. Yet, it is so hard even as an adult not to utter those words. “Why did he get a raise, that's not fair.” “Why is she getting married before me, it's not fair.” Despite knowing those words make even adults sound like a toddler, we still sometimes mutter them under our breath. Why is this?

Teaching fairness in the classroom seems like a simple concept to educate people on, but is actually neglected. I saw this one year when I had a class of 28 students. Yes, 28 little seven and eight year old's in a classroom may not seem like a challenge, but add in these factors. Students with anxiety. Students with reading intervention. Students with math intervention. Students who couldn't write. Students with severe behavior issues. Students with emotional problems. Add in all of these factors and you are bound to hear the words “it's not fair” more than a fair share during the school year.

The fairness factor comes in to play whenever teachers do what they should do, differentiate. Student's have different abilities, difficulties, emotions, etc. and as a teacher, you know how to help your students. That kiddo who can't sit still in their desk? Try a resistance band. Maybe another kid has to sit alone because of severe anxiety. Or how about that student who gets an altered worksheet geared towards their needs? Kids start to see these seemingly simple accommodations and that's when the “it's not fair” game sometimes begins.

In the past I had a wide range of classes. Some years the kids were very accepting and understanding of each other's needs, while other years….the calm down jar was supposedly needed by everyone.  I was tired of hearing those three little words every day so I scoured the internet….aka Pinterest…and came across a great lesson. It can be altered in any way you choose to suit your student's needs. I was teaching second grade at the time so things were kept simple and to the point.

Items needed for this lesson:

• Enough band aids for everyone in the class

• Different illnesses/injuries written on sticky notes or index cards- enough for each student

First give everyone a card with a different injury or illness on it. The can range from mild ( a papercut) to more severe ( a broken bone). After every student has a card have them discuss their ailments with each other. Then ask a few kids ways they think that they would be able to fix their said ailment.  Try and vary the injuries/illnesses greatly. Next, give every student a band aid. Open the room for discussion. Did the band aid fix their problem? If a student says the band aid did not cure the given ailment, ask why. Explain, not every ailment can be cured with a band aid and that some need very different treatment.

This is where kids usually have the (oh I get it) moment during the lesson. Discuss how like their fake ailments, each of them needs different things to succeed.  The point is to teach that just because everyone got a band aid and it seemed fair, it didn't help everyone. What would actually BE fair is if the ailments were actually cured. You can also give everyone, but one child a band aid and discuss how they felt not receiving one.

How do you teach fairness in your classroom?